Grief & Loss

“Each person’s grief is like all people’s grief, each person’s grief is like some other person’s grief, and each person’s grief is like no other person’s grief.” (Worden, 2009)  

What is grief? 

Grief is a natural, yet painful emotional response that follows the loss of someone or something that is important to you. It most commonly follows the loss of a loved one, but can follow the loss of a pet, a home, a job, or a possession i.e. items of sentimental value. It can also follow significant life changes, such as moving house, changing school/job, a relationship breakdown, or diagnosis of a chronic or terminal illness. There is no exhaustive list of what qualifies as a loss. Any experience that results in feelings and thoughts of grief is a loss.  

Signs of grief 

While there are many common features of grief, each person grieves (and heals) in their own unique way. Some people are open with their grief while others are more private, choosing to keep busy and not talk about it. Grief can include both physical and emotional reactions, and the way you grieve is the way that is right for you.  

Some common reactions include: 

• Sadness and crying 
• Loneliness 
• Numbness 
• Guilt and remorse 
• Relief 
• Anger 
• Yearning or pining 
• Fear 
• Sleep disturbances 

However, there are a few signs that suggest you may be in particular need of counselling:  

Excessive crying and prolonged sadness (or a reluctance to cry) 

Compulsive/excessive behaviours (e.g. eating, shopping, working) 

Withdrawal and isolation e.g. losing interest in family, friends and hobbies 

Substance abuse 

Agitated, aggressive, and demanding behaviours (irrational anger) 

Anxiety-driven behaviours 

Thoughts of suicide or self-harm  

If you, or anyone you know is experiencing any of these symptoms following a loss, book an appointment with us at Clearview Pathway.